SHOW DATE: APRIL 30, 2014
We just got back from an amazing Asia trip, and it’s helped us get a new look on life and work.
We’re here to help you get a new perspective on yours.
The great thing about cathartic getaways is, whether you’re lying on the beach looking up at the stars or immersed in an entirely different culture, it really shakes up your life perspective.
On the plane from China, Auntie Evan made some serious resolutions (including no more wheat; gluten-free baby!). The decision that really stuck out, however, was his promise to stop complaining on the job.
How did he reach such a drastic resolution?
After the beautiful Dr. Seussian Silver Cave in Yangzhou, Auntie Evan and Uncle David get to their hotel room overlooking the town and nightlife.
Auntie Evan looked out the window and spotted this elderly Chinese woman folding plastic bags, slowly, one after another. From the left she took unfolded bags and laid them out neatly on the right, selling tangerines on the side for 5 cents a dozen.
After two hours, she was still there. After dinner, she was still there. She’s there for 12 hours a day.
And here Auntie Evan is complaining about not enough stamps in the office. In retrospect, his life is amazing, and so he decided to give up complaining about the petty things.
But Uncle David was immediately skeptical, curious how Auntie Evan is going to make this stick.
So we called up Roberto, our office manager at Forster-Thomas, on the show. After a hearty laugh, Roberto told Auntie Evan: “In the last 24 hours I wanted to murder you so many times.”
The latest Auntie Evan complaint? A newly broken lock on the file cabinet.
The lesson? When you overlook the 1000 things your co-workers, employees or interns do for you and focus on the single tiny thing that wasn’t done right, it makes those around you at work (and life) question if they’re actually good at their job, and it makes them question if they really want to work there in the first place.
That’s not the message you want to send people.
We get that creating real change in your life is not easy. But we’ve got a streamlined process for anybody who has a resolution or wants to change their behavior and stick with it:
1) First off, keep that moment that first inspired you to jump into action alive (Auntie Evan took a photo of Folding Bag Woman).
2) Empower someone to keep you on track and call you out when you derail.
3) You can’t make the person you give power regret their role by punishing them every time they tell you what you told them to tell you (read that over).
Have people around you act as a support system and let yourself be helped. That life-changing resolution will stick.